Online dating – are you ever too old?

I received this email from a 57 year old woman who’s joined the ranks of the online dating/adult networking society.

What is it about some men that drive me over the edge when it comes to online dating?  Please note that I am not grouping all men together…note the word “some” . I am not male-bashing here…I am truly curious about these things! When I am chatting with a man, why do they almost always want to know what I am wearing? And how do they know if I’m telling the truth? Or does that matter?

Me:  Simply, the guys are using the net to get off so to speak.  They’re using their imagination once you tell them what you have on to build a sexual fantasy about you.  I think they’re pretty harmless but it’s not your job to entertain them.  Drop them like the dorks they are.

Why do some men want to see all of your pictures when they don’t have any to share? Are they simply collecting pictures? Are they ashamed of what they look like?

Me:  Again, these men are voyeurs who are not sincerely looking for a partner.  That’s what you’ll find in the chatrooms — adults looking to get away from the humdrum of daily life by feeling sexy or naughty even if it’s just for a few minutes a day.  It might not be for you and if it’s not, use the profile and email for your connections.

Why do some men send me a message that reads, “Let’s have sex” and some are much more crude than that? Does that approach really work for them? If so, how does it “work”?  I’ve been on 3 sites and I’ve had similar experiences on all 3.

Me:  Why do they do that?  Because they’re men and they haven’t learned how to attract a woman.  Are they all this way?  No, not by a long shot.  You’ve certainly found the wrong ones in a hurry, so keep looking.

Why do some men want to just “come over and have sex right now”? Does that mean they would be with anyone? Do those men not have any personal standards?

Me:  Right again.  Some men don’t have any standards and coincidentally some women don’t have any either.  I think online pornography has a lot to answer for in the way some men treat women.  They see the dolly birds and the oohs and aahs and think real women act like that.  I have news for them.  Real women have lumps and bumps and they snore and fart and their hair gets messy and their eyeliner runs and a good man never notices.