Ready for a new relationship?

I was talking with a woman yesterday who asked me what it took to find someone special. When I get questions like that I always wonder what’s going on behind the scenes. Personally I’ve never been alone when I didn’t want to be so it’s difficult for me to put myself in that frame of mind.

Is there a difference between someone saying that they want someone new in their life and them being ready for it to happen? Huge difference!! I chose the photo above because this is what the woman looked like. Sad. Frustrated. Unhappy. Dare I say, grumpy. She went on about how good people rarely came into her life and on and on until frankly I tuned out.

This woman is not ready for any kind of relationship. How can she be successful in any relationship because she sees herself as a victim? I think there are men exactly like her so this isn’t a woman-only problem.

When poor results keep happening in a search for a new relationship, sometimes you have to look at the situation and say, “it’s not them, it’s me.” The good news is that you can turn it around. Stop playing victim. Take control over how you feel. Choose to feel positive even though that’s not your inclination. Over time you’ll become what you practice. When you like yourself better, you’ll be amazed at how attractive that is to everyone else around you.