I was talking with a woman who chats regularly on SexyAds.com about what makes a man sexy to her.  She laughed and said that she was married to a man who didn’t give her what she needed so maybe she wasn’t the person to ask.  I asked again and she said that the sexiest men she’s come across in chats and message boards or forums were men who wanted to make friends first.  I thought it was a bit odd since she claimed to chat online nearly every night but she went on to say:

“The man who wants me as a friend and is interested in me as a person, not just a pair of tits and a smile, that’s what I call a sexy man” she said and that’s what turned the light on for me.

If all a woman wanted was to get laid, most of them could get that without having to go to the Internet and place an ad. We all accept that.

Her last comment was, “a friend excites my whole being – my mind and my body and his respect for me turns me on more than anything.  Make me a friend and I’ll want him more than he wants me.”

How is it for you?  Friends first or jump in the sack and decide about friendship later?  I’ve always been a friends first sort of person myself but I know a lot who want to check the intimacy before they decide on friendship.  Seems backward to me.